Every relationship has problems at some point. If you are lucky in your relationship, these will only be minor problems that you both can get past because of the love and respect that you have for each other. However, this will not be the case with every relationship. There are so many people struggling with their current relationships for various reasons. Perhaps they’re constantly arguing over finances or how to raise their children. Sometimes arguments could arise over the smallest situations which are insignificant. In the end, all these problems are the result of poor communication and intimacy.
Communication is Key
Relationships may seem easy in the beginning. When you first meet someone that you really like and you both fall in love with one another, it seems like everything is perfect in the relationship. You’re laughing, smiling, and having a good time every day. Unfortunately, as time goes on, the romance and magic of the relationship become clouded by real-world problems. The stress of working, taking care of children, and paying bills become the dominant factors in their lives. This leaves little to no time for the couple. So, how does a couple overcome this?
The key to any long-lasting relationship is communication. You need to be able to talk with your partner about any of the struggles or problems that you are experiencing. Many people in long-lasting relationships fail to do this. If they are feeling frustrated or resentful toward their partner, they will keep those feelings bottled up inside. This will often make the person act moody, aggressive, and angry. Their partner won’t even understand why they’re acting like this until it is too late.
People are afraid to communicate with their partner because of how they might react. But if you cannot even talk to your partner about what’s on your mind, how is that good for your relationship? The secret to any healthy relationship is being able to communicate with your partner without feeling scared or hesitant. If you do have these feelings, then it means there is a problem somewhere in the relationship that needs to be worked out.
Occasional problems in relationships will often work themselves out. But if there are constant disagreements and arguments in your relationship, you may need the assistance of a marriage counsellor or therapist to help you work through these problems. This therapy needs to be something that both partners are willing to commit to. It is not enough for one partner in the relationship to get therapy because the problem is occurring with both partners, whether they realise it or not. If each partner truly wants to save the relationship, they should have no problem agreeing to go to see a therapist together.
It can be a tremendous benefit to have a qualified third-party act as a mediator between two partners. This would be a registered therapist who specialises in couples therapy and understands how to address the most common problems in relationships. The therapist will act as a completely neutral third-party without taking sides in the discussion. They will simply ask questions and try to get each partner to understand what the other is feeling. The result will be for each partner to compromise and become more empathetic rather than judgmental.
Remember that therapy can only work if both partners are willing to work at it. There are cases where one partner may not be as serious about saving the relationship as another partner. This may or may not be the case with your relationship. Therapists cannot make one partner love the other partner. That is a feeling which must already exist in them. The therapist is simply there to guide couples through their problems and teach them the importance of listening and communicating with each other.