Relationship dynamics may have changed dramatically over generations, but the challenges that couples face have mostly stayed the same. Arguments about money, household responsibilities, married life, and sex can make relationships feel like a constant struggle. To add to these age-old issues, we now have new challenges specific to modern life: it’s harder to achieve work/life balance, technology is too present in our lives, and, more recently, both partners have to work together from home.
Most adults in the UK acknowledge that every relationship could use a bit of help. However, only 22% of British couples would agree to seek professional therapy if they went through a rough patch in their relationship. This stigma surrounding couples therapy needs to be challenged – modern tools can help restore balance in your relationship and solve conflicts in a calm, respectful and constructive way. Therapy can help you understand yourself and your loved ones, identify the obstacles that are holding you back, and move forward by nurturing trust.
Although the challenges couples face may be the same, the way you experience them will differ depending on factors such as your personality, the social context, and the events going on in your life.
Sitting down with a therapist and opening up about your intimate thoughts may seem awkward at first, but it’s exactly the fact that you are talking to an impartial professional makes communication easier. The therapist is not there to pass judgment or to force you to make changes you are uncomfortable with. A couples counsellor will just provide a safe space where you can discuss your concerns and address vulnerable issues.
Some of the benefits of couples therapy include:
Even though the focus falls on the couple, and how you interact with your loved one, you can benefit from therapy as an individual too. You will learn what you appreciate most in a partner, what you are looking for in a relationship, and how to open yourself up emotionally.
Couples therapy is not just an investment for the good health of your relationship but also for your personal wellbeing. People who are in high-quality relationships are more likely to feel happy, self-confident, optimistic and supported.
And remember, the goal of counselling isn’t to have you rely on professional help constantly, but to develop the mindset to do this yourself.
One of the biggest misconceptions surrounding couples therapy is that you should only go when your relationship is in a critical moment, such as divorce, or the loss of a child. Therapy can help in those moments, but not only. You should seek therapy whenever you feel that your relationship could be better or you feel “stuck”:
Couples Skype therapy has existed for a while now, but its popularity grew during the lockdown, when therapist offices had to be closed for health & safety reasons. But what started out as a temporary alternative ended up as a popular service, as many couples discovered that this option is more convenient for their lifestyle.
What do I need for Skype therapy sessions?
For Skype therapy sessions, you only need a device connected to the Internet and a Skype account. We recommend couples to choose a time that works for both partners and when they don’t have pressing matters to attend to.
How many sessions will we need?
The number of recommended sessions is different for every couple, depending on the issues you want to address and your personal needs.
How long does a session take?
The average session is 50 minutes long, but, if needed, you may ask your therapist about longer sessions.
Will the therapist give us “homework”?
Your therapist may ask you to keep a journal or do some services as a couple to apply what you’ve learned during therapy.
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