I specialise in helping couples and individuals to improve their relationship to improve communication by gaining new communication skills and increasing positive interactions.

I also help individuals overcoming anxiety, anger and depression. As an Certified Imago Relationship Therapist and experienced BACP accredited psychotherapist. my approach is integrative as I draw from a variety of disciplines.

1) Marriage, Couple and Relationship Counselling Couples often experience a breakdown in communication that causes a fight and flight reaction. These may become repetitive cycles of self destructive behaviour were anger expressed spins out of control. A reduction of emotional closeness, trust and physical intimacy follows which can lead to crises in the relationship, affairs and the threat of divorce. Together we explore why there is disconnection and how you can get the relationship you want. A key to this is building open and calm communication in order to understand each other, resolve conflict and meet each other’s needs. When affairs occur, rebuilding trust,transparency and forgiveness is key to improving the relationship . I also focus on you building greater appreciation, care and fun to reignite love and connection. My methodology has three key stages.

A) AWARENESS Gaining greater insight into the dynamics of your relationship and the root it's problem. Many relationships begin on a high, 'the honeymoon stage', but when life becomes more stressful this fades and antagonism begins. It is common for power struggles to develop in which you battle to have your needs met. One common dynamic occurs when one person is more direct and the other is more reserved. The direct partner expresses upset and the other responds by pulling away.

The direct one then thinks – I am not getting my point across and become more critical which creates further withdraw and both become emotional distant. There are other relationships were both are fiery or non communicative. Its also important to understand triggering, how pain from past relationships and childhood can be projected onto current relationship. This often explains why arguments go from zero to 100 in seconds.

B) IMPROVE COMMUNICATION Gaining new communication skills plays a vital role in improving your relationship. Stopping negative criticism and learning to listen to each other in a calm way . One powerful technique I share is called “mirroring”, in which each person paraphrases the other’s opinion before expressing their own. Opinions are also expressed by using “I feel ” and " in my opinion " statements, rather than accusatory statements beginning with “You are ... .” These help you feel heard, understood, and creates an empathetic environment so you can work together to resolve differences and build trust.

C) ACTS OF CARE By increasing acts of care, such as spending more quality time together, expressing appreciation and being more supporting helps you to reconnect. Dr Gary Chapman, author of ‘The Five Love Languages’, explains that there are five ways in which we express and experience love: Gift Giving, Quality Time, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, and Words of. Appreciation. Different people have different ‘love languages’ and it’s valuable to understand what each person appreciates most to enable each to feel loved.

2) Overcoming Anxiety (Generalised Anxiety Disorder & Panic attacks) Anxiety comes from underlying fear. To overcome it, we need to understand what the fear is and what is causing it. Sometimes it can be based on illusory thinking, where a person focuses on the worst case scenario coming true. These thoughts need to be challenged so we can eliminate them. When the fear is a real one, it needs to be confronted by taking appropriate action. There are times when anxiety is based on the influences from past experiences, which need to be addressed to resolve them. As an integrative psychotherapist , I draw from a variety of approaches to address your unique needs.

3) Anger Management Anger can wreak havoc in a person’s life. With anger management a person gains understanding into what’s triggering the anger and how to change the way you respond. This can be by expressing feelings in a healthy way, and taking appropriate steps to solve the underlying cause of the anger. In each case anger management is tailored to the needs of the clients. Shorter therapy sessions of 30 minutes are also offered for individual clients wanting phone or online sessions and do not wish to commit to 50-60 minute sessions.

Testimonials from previous clients
"When we approached Aryeh our marriage had been very unsatisfactory for a long time and I had little hope marriage counselling would help but within a few sessions the surprising effectiveness of Aryeh's techniques and guidance had improved our relationship remarkably. He has an effective methodology, a calming influence and is very astute."

"We came to see Aryeh as a married couple who had lost their way in communicating with one another most essentially in empathy. Having hit what felt at the time like rock bottom it was amazing to get to a point whereby we felt incredibly close again and reconnected on a deeper level than before." "You have helped us enormously to move past our problems and find a better way to communicate. We are both very grateful for all your help."

"I went to see Aryeh during a time in my life where I was beginning to feel depressed and it was affecting nearly all aspects of my life. Aryeh is an amazing listener and his in-depth analysis of things I never would have thought of helped me resolve some huge holes in my life."

"Aryeh is calm, down to earth and easy to approach, which is exactly what you need when you're feeling vulnerable talking about yourself and your issues."

"I feel the immense benefit to my life coming to you has given me."