By C Godbold
In an exclusive interview with the Sunday Mirror, Sir Tom Jones told how counselling saved him when the overwhelming grief of losing his beloved wife, Linda, threatened his life.
After Linda, 59, died of lung cancer, Sir Tom fell in to depression, and could not focus on his career which fell by the wayside. He was unable to get out of bed most days.
It was Sir Tom’s son, Mark who compelled him to see a therapist to help him through the severe symptoms of grief he was experiencing. The Voice host stated that the therapy helped him enormously.
Tom told the Mirror: “Mark helped tremendously. He said ‘there is this lady you should see’. She counselled a lot of things. She said to me ‘You have got to carry on. If you don’t, you will die’. I thought of my family, my son, my daughter and my grandchildren – all of that.”
Tom’s wife and childhood sweetheart, Lady Melinda Rose Woodward sadly passed away at Cedars Sinai Hospital in Los Angeles on 10th April 2017.
Following on from her death, Sir Tom cancelled concerts and felt as though he could not carry on with his job.
Sir Tom described how overwhelming the grief was and how it affected him: “When my wife passed away, God bless her, I didn’t know whether I would make it. There were days when I felt I couldn’t get up. You don’t want to get out of bed to start with.”
He described hearing Linda’s voice and seeing her at night in his dreams. He said he felt it was the hardest to wake up in the morning, and for Linda to not be there.
With a much improved outlook since his therapy, Sir Tom is once again focused and busy with his career.
He told the Sunday Mirror, just before 'The Voice' show final “Time off would be death for me. The only time I’ll take off is when I die. I don’t take long periods of time off. I’m happier when I’m singing, than not.”
Grief and Bereavement Counselling can be a huge saviour for those who have lost loved ones. Losing someone close can feel incredibly chaotic and it is often difficult to focus on day-to-day life while trying to comprehend what has happened and process the loss of a loved one.
Grief, although a normal reaction, can sometimes manifest into something more complex and the symptoms of depression can in some cases, appear. It is important to seek help if you or someone you know experiences depression.
Bereavement Counselling can help support the individual through these very difficult times and help make sense of the loss, in order to move on.
Bereavement Therapy and Counselling can help people cope more easily and helps with getting through the challenges of day-to-day life. A Bereavement Counsellor might help an individual with the following:
Help with a better understanding of mourning
Look at reasons and areas that are preventing the person from moving on
Adapting to life without the loved one and moving on
Focusing on any complex symptoms associated with the grief, such as those of depression or suicidal thoughts.
It may seem as though happiness will never come around again, but for most individuals, things do get better in time. A bereavement specialist can help guide through the challenges of grief and help deal with the painful feelings that come with loss, to make each day a little bit easier.
If you would like to make an appointment with a bereavement specialist, please use our search facility to find a therapist in your locality.